Adages To Survive Adultery

Cliches are as old as the hills, but the reason they have passed the test of time is that they're true. They apply today as much as they applied hundreds, maybe thousands of years ago when they were first penned. Let's take a look at six of them and see how they apply to the issue of how to survive infidelity .

Can't see the forest for the trees. Let's begin with this one because it's what we experience when we discover the infidelity. We put blinders on and that's all we can see - WHAT was done to hurt us, not when or who or where or most importantly why, just what. We have to look at the big picture and look at what surrounds the situation, not just the event itself.

Learn from your experiences. Once you have viewed the entire forest, begin the process of learning from your experience. You may have pretended you knew how you would feel in adult situations as a child, but you never know how you will truly feel until you are in the situation. Come to an agreement with your partner that this was a one time situation and put it behind you so you can move forward together.

A cent for your thoughts. Communication is the key to every great relationship according to anyone who knows anything. Communication is especially difficult when you have to tell someone you love something that will hurt and upset them. However, if you keep holding it in, you will only allow it to get worse before you finally blurt it out. You should take time to consider how you will say what needs to be said and then find an appropriate time to share your feelings.

Its me, not you. This is the only adage on this list that is a how-NOT-to instead of a how-to. Rarely do you find a situation that is 100% one person's fault. Even if you are the partner that was cheated on, you may still have had some fault in the situation. Do not just throw all of the blame on the cheater, even though it is easy and natural to do. Share your feelings, share your guilt, and share your future together.

It may be simple, but it is not easy. Planning a wedding is simple. Make some phone calls, send some invitations, and have a ceremony. The marriage that follows will prove to you just how simple that ceremony was. A marriage is a full-time job where you never get a vacation. You must constantly work to make your relationship thrive. Learn early how to communicate, how to bend without breaking, and how to forgive if you want your marriage to succeed.

Time heals all hurts. This very well might be the oldest cliche in the book, but it is the most applicable in this situation. Once you are able to forgive each other for the pain inflicted, you can begin to heal. Let time help you move on to bigger and better things together. Let this situation fade into the distance as you grow together in life.

These adages, while appropriate for adultery, are also applicable in the rest of life. They will help your marriage survive and thrive, even after infidelity. Hopefully these adages will stay with you if you ever are forced to experience adultery.

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