Accepting Compliments

For my niece's graduation I bought a fun Susan Wilson Solovic book, The Girls' Guide to Power & Success. In glancing through this book's wisdom, it struck me that people twice or even three times her age struggle with the same success blocking issues.

One of my toughest jobs as an executive coach is to get clients to stop focusing on their faults and instead build upon what they are already doing right. How does one do this? First, train yourself to take compliments in, really hear them, allow them to soak into your Self, and then, get their meaning. Second, acknowledge the sender. People love knowing that their opinion has touched and improved you.

Solovic said: "The inability to accept a compliment graciously is annoying, disrespectful and a form of self-deprecation. Not accepting a compliment both undermines yourself and insults the giver because you infer they don't know what they're talking about. Does this example sound familiar to you?

"What a lovely suit you have on this evening," a friend says. "This old thing—I've had it for years," you reply. "Well, that may be, but it looks great on you, your friend continues. "Oh, don't you think my hips look big in it?" you ask.

Why can't we just say "Thank you"? By deflecting the compliment in such a way, you have caused the other person to focus on the age of the suit and the size of your hips. Is this really what we want to communicate to them?

This message is equally strong for men. Your foundation will be strengthened if you accept compliments and acknowledgments and your success will unfold. Belittling ourselves (even minutely) and focusing upon our mistakes cracks this foundation.

Learn when the best time is to provide compliments for your own self. Know that not everyone is skilled in the art of providing compliments. You don't have to wait for someone else to pat you on the back; just look in the mirror and tell yourself "You go! I never had a doubt in my mind that you could accomplish this feat!"

Accepting compliments in a savvy way makes you stand out (since so few of can do this gracefully) and elevates relationships. Try this week to accept compliments that come your way instead of brushing them off. See what else opens up to you?

What you focus on becomes your reality. Compliments are not a bad reality to have. It will help you overcome your success-blocking issues. Enjoy your discoveries this week!

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